Good fences make good neighbors, but do good personal boundaries make good Networkers?

Yes.

While many  Network Marketers have been conditioned to get “close” to the prospect, the real goal is to build strong, lasting relationships. The more distinct the boundaries of a relationship, the easier it is for upline and downline to know, like, and trust each other — which is essential to starting and building a business together. Boundaries are key to maintaining both strong relationships and individual strength through the inevitable ups and downs of our business.

What exactly is a Boundary and How can You Use One?

In simplest terms, a boundary sets limits, makes distinctions, informs you as to what is you and what is not you. A boundary makes clear the distinction between you and others, and tells you where one thing ends and another begins. It lets you know that another’s ideas, values, and feelings are not necessarily yours. A boundary is flexible and permeable, letting information flow back and forth.  It allows you to actively listen without having judgments. Read the rest of this entry »

You are your most important critic. There is no opinion so vitally important to your well being as the opinion you have of yourself.

As you read this you’re talking to yourself right now. “Let’s see if I understand what is meant by that… How does that compare with my experiences? – I’ll make note of that – try that tomorrow – I already knew that… I already do that.”

I believe this self-talk, this psycholinguistics or language of the mind can be controlled to work for us, especially in the building of self-confidence and creativity. We’re all talking to ourselves every moment of our lives, except during certain portions of our sleeping cycle. We’re seldom even aware that we’re doing it. We all have a running commentary in our heads on events and our reactions to them. Read the rest of this entry »

Perseverance is about as important to achievement as gasoline is to driving a car. Sure, there will be times when you feel like you’re spinning your wheels, but you’ll always get out of the rut with genuine perseverance. Without it, you won’t even be able to start your engine.

The opposite of perseverance is procrastination. Perseverance means you never quit. Procrastination usually means you never get started, although the inability to finish something is also a form of procrastination.

Ask people why they procrastinate and you’ll often hear something like this: “I’m a perfectionist. Everything has to be just right before I can get down to work. No distractions, not too much noise, no telephone calls interrupting me, and of course I have to be feeling well physically, too. I can’t work when I have a headache.” The other end of procrastination – being unable to finish – also has a perfectionist explanation: “I’m just never satisfied. I’m my own harshest critic. If all the i’s aren’t dotted and all the t’s aren’t crossed, I just can’t consider that I’m done. That’s just the way I am, and I’ll probably never change.”

Do you see what’s going on here? Read the rest of this entry »

Let’s focus on finding the solutions and strategies you need to make your MLM dreams come true. You have a dream – now lets ask, How are you going to make it come true?

Success requires that we ask practical, powerful, positive questions every day.

Almost all human behavior is the result of asking and answering a question. Whether we realize it or not, when we adjust the thermostat, we are taking action based on the question, “How can I make this room more comfortable?”

Similarly, when we stand in front of the cabinet or refrigerator, we are often hoping to answer the question, “What will satisfy my hunger?”

In the same way, our personal and business decisions are the result of answering questions we ask ourselves. Typically, we choose a career based on questions such as, “What would I love to do?” or “What are my skills?”. Sometimes we select a job based on questions like, “What opportunities are available?” or, “Where can I get a job to support myself and my family?” Read the rest of this entry »

When you began your MLM business you probably started by making a list of people you know.  That is always a good start because you are only looking for a few Key People and it should come from those you Know, Like and Trust. 

I have always found that after making the list I prefer to categorize people because some on my list I wouldn’t want to work with.  That should not preclude you from sharing the product with them (I don’t believe anyone would be offended if you make some money because they made a purchase of something they’d never know about if you didn’t tell them!)  Everyone you know can benefit from the products or service, but they may not make a great MLM business partner or Team mates.  That is YOUR decision and it is important you understand the responsibility you have each time you choose to enroll someone on your MLM Team!

When your talking to people, you will find some are naturally a perfect fit for your MLM product/service and you just aren’t sure if they would make a good fit for your MLM Team.  In fact, they might be quite anxious to get started with your MLM Product and you aren’t necessarily ready to discuss a partnership with them. 

Let’s get back to the list you made Read the rest of this entry »

Recently one of my distributors asked me what she should do about all the guilt she is feeling.  It seems she was getting feedback from some friends that she was so focused on her MLM business that she wasn’t spending as much time with them.  When she talked about what she was doing you could just hear her enthusiasm, her desire to learn and grow and how excited she was about the future.  She is still a fairly new distributor and when we initially talked she had mentioned her extensive friendships and all the good times they have had together. 

Whatever situation you are in – you must always look ‘after number one’ (yourself) first.

We weren’t put on this earth to be unhappy and miserable because of how other people affect us. We are here to enjoy ourselves, to have fun, and to make the most of what natural talents we have been given. Read the rest of this entry »